Hello Blog World! I haven’t written for the last couple of months for many reasons…
The first of which is that I have been a very, very busy bee.
The second was that I wasn’t really being The Novel Housewife, I was more like a project manager of sorts so my material for housewife subjects was scarce.
And the third reason was that for half of my absence I was keeping a big secret. A secret that had reached its tentacles into almost every aspect of my life, so strategically omitting it seemed wrong. The secret only spilled to the people I know in mid-December when everything became official and then the whirlwind of preparations began.
So what have I been up to…last month the husband and I moved across country to Charlotte, North Carolina. An opportunity came up with his work and we went for it. We sold the house, packed what we could into a POD, sold or gave away what we couldn’t, got an XL carrier for Bailey, and drove across country with a massive storm 24 hours behind us. It was a emotionally freeing and frightening all at the same time. I will dedicate some future posts to the various aspects of doing a move like this in a little more than 6 weeks, but while it was happening I couldn’t stop to analyze it and write it all down. I feared it would open a can of emotions I didn’t have time to deal with and I wanted to just be present. I did do some video diaries to chronicle some events but more so I could remember things that might get suppressed over time.
If you are on the actual blog page you might have noticed it looks a little different and a little empty. I figured in a new city I would get a fresh start. The old entires are still around and I will probably start slowly unlocking them once I have time to see if they are worth putting back up for all to see. I changed the format because it didn’t seem right to have the flowers that were outside our SoCal home as a featured photo. I will be playing around with the theme for the next couple of weeks until I find something that works.
I’ll fast forward to the Now part of the story and give you some flashbacks in the next couple of days. It will be like one of those movies that gives away the ending before you even know the story. Right now I am sitting at my new desk in my new home office, which is in the den of the house we’re renting. Up until last week this room was pretty much a walkthrough from the stairs to the kitchen. We had four areas in the house that were furniture-less, now we just have three. I found my last drops of sanity were going to evaporate if I didn’t have a space to sit down and write, so I made a day trip to IKEA and picked something out. It seemed like most of things we sold or gave away were flat surfaces so I had nowhere to put my laptop that didn’t cramp up my neck. Our dining room table was long over due for removal from our house (remnants of a past relationship), my desk didn’t fit in the POD but found a home with another writer, and various other tables were left behind for personal or logistical reasons. So I had nowhere besides our bed or the couch to run off too. Since it is shared space, I felt rushed.
It has been hard for me to nest here, since we are just renting I can’t do much and it has made me feel a little unsettled. I feel guilty for even putting in a new nail in the wall to hang a picture, but I had to just mark a little bit or teritory. Most of the decorating choices are not in line with my own tastes; nothing horrific, just more pastel and muted colors than I am used to, I’m trying to make it work.
There are actual seasons in North Carolina, something our SoCal skin has been deprived of but we are acclimating. 40 degrees used to be almost painful back in SoCal but now I can go out and hardly notice it. It was 57 a few days back and I half debated wearing a skirt! I know- we were spoiled. Spring is just getting underway here and we can’t wait to see the transformation.
This weekend was the first time we have been able to open the windows and let non-machine generated warm air in since we moved in. Now we try to have the windows open wherever we can, this all-the-time heater thing is new and my sinuses hate it. The is sun poking in and out here, it’s still warm but a storm is coming in this evening to save me from having to water the yard. It has rained at least once a week since we have been here, it has already become normal to me. I haven’t had to water once. We have also had snow, but that’s a whole other post. =)